WE DID IT – WE GOT THROUGH IT!!
And what a year it was!
As we say goodbye to 2020, I can’t help but reflect on all the changes it has brought, not only in my life but the life of my family and my clients.
From a personal view my life has had many changes. I found working from home brought me a sense of freedom, which is quite ironic considering we were in lockdown for over 5 months, many of these months we couldn’t go beyond a 5km radius and no more than 1 hour outside per day.
However, it allowed me to think outside the box and realise what I was actually able to accomplish while working from home. As of December 18th 2020, I left my full time employment to work in my business, coaching and mentoring women going through separation and divorce, this may never have happened if it wasn’t for covid-19.
I know I’m one of the lucky ones. This year has brought destruction to many relationships. Some that were already on shaky ground but others that were ‘solid’.
One of my clients was married for eight and a half years. Before covid-19 hit the thought of divorce never entered her mind, but during the lockdown the marriage broke down. The stress of both of them working in the same space, seeing each other 24/7 with no break and no ‘distractions’ of other people, whether it be extended family coming over or a catch up at the local bar or coffee shop with friends, these things couldn’t happen. The stress of it all just built up.
In the US a major family law firm announced a 34% increase in divorce enquiries. China and Sweden showed similar patterns while a leading British family law firm logged a 122% increase in enquiries between July and October compared to the same time last year.
A study by Relationships Australia into the impact of Covid-19 found that 42% of people had experienced a negative change in their relationship and 55% felt challenged by their living arrangement.
The reasons for the breakups haven’t changed, financial stress and ‘cheating’ are still the two most common factors of a breakup. However, since everyone is home disagreements about parenting, home-schooling and who does what household chores have put additional stress on relationships.
It’s important to know that when you are going through the throes of a separation, you are not alone! There are people and organisations that can help you. Whether it be to advise you on the next steps to take and ‘hold your hand’ through the process or someone to listen to you without judgement.
No matter what 2020 brought into your life, know that you have become more resilient, stronger and you are ready to face 2021 and ‘smash out’ your goals with the tools and lessons you have learnt this challenging year.
Whats the lesson that 2020 has taught you?